Host Gifts - 5 Ways to Be a Great Guest

When I was growing up (as my daughter would say, 'when dirt was new'), my mom always kept a cabinet filled with hostess gifts. She believed in always being prepared to arrive at parties, small and large, with an appreciation gift to her hostess. When mom would find something that she thought would be wonderful, she would buy several to stash away. She would either tie a bow around the top or when gift bags became en vogue, she would just slip it into a small bag.

There is a lot to be learned from her example. First of all, graciousness. Taking a gift to the party is much like writing the thank you note before you actually attend. It is telling the host and hostess that you know ahead of time that you will have a wonderful time! Secondly, by planning ahead, you reduce your stress level and you are always prepared ahead of time so that last minute invitations won't get you ruffled. Lastly, mom was never in the rut of taking wine or sending flowers. Her philosophy was that everyone else did it, so there would be an over abundance of both. Besides, she was a last minute gal, so being able to grab and go certainly had it's advantages. Keeping a list of recipients is also a good idea so that you don't run the risk of repeating your gifts.

Here are five ideas for host gifts to have on hand that will let your hosts and hostesses know how much you appreciate being included.

1) Candles. Soy candles come in a variety of heavenly scents and containers. They are consumable, but not perishable which is always appreciated.

2) Bar implements. Wine bottle stoppers, wine openers, and bar napkins to go with those bottles of wine that everyone else will show up with.

3) Spa products. Bath confetti, gourmet skin scrubs, eye pillows or body and lip balms are especially great for hostesses although more and more hosts have come to appreciate the pampering delights of such gifts.

4) Picture frames. Classic, small picture frames are always appreciated. Keep a selection of fancy and tailored frames on hand. If you happen to have a photo that is special to the hosts, include it in the frame as an extra touch. Look for frames no larger than 5 x 7, although 4 x 6 is a preferred size since it will fit most personal snapshots.

5) A tea me basket. Great for curling up with a good book or movie. Fill a tea mug with individual packets of tea or cocoa, add some cookies and a bow and you are all set! Tea, cocoa, coffees, even margarita mixes can be ordered en masse with your own personalized label!